Its either my language is not good enough or too confusing for you to understand, or that your communicate style is one that I am unable to fathom at the moment.
Take today for instance:
6pm
Me: "Are you free tonight?"
Him: "I am very tired today."
Me: "why, yesterday didn't sleep well?"
Him: "okay la, I'm fine"
Me: "Do you have anything on later? Do you want to have dinner together?"
Him: "What? I am very tired cos I went to the gym"
Me: "Nevermind"
I wonder if this helps you to see my point of view. I was so sad and disappointed that replied with one word: "nevermind"
Now, I know that when you meant "you were very tired", its not that you did not want go out per say, but prefer to chill and relax near your house. How was I to know, how was I to read this off your mind. Naturally, I would think that you just have no interest in hanging out with me, go out with me, or even spend time with me.
Lets see how things might have been different if you had said this instead:
"Okay we could have dinner together but I am quite tired today, maybe we can hangout out at my place instead?"
Then, all my sadness and disapppointment would not have surfaced at all.
This is just one incident, I used to think it was your straightforward character. But it isn't, and even if it was, I am able to understand cos not everyone is the same or born the same way, so I have to adapt to different types of people, including you. Then, I've gotten to realised that its your communication style. When you're direct, you're too direct, and when you're not direct, your too passive. Hence, I either interpret wrongly how you think and feel, or I end up hurting you subconsciously, or I end up being sad over nothing.
Specific to our relationship, communication is the key as I know character wise you are a good guy and you treat me well, and I love you too. Neither of us would do something to jeopardise our relationship, and because I also believe we're both mature enough to not do anything stupid. So I don't foresee any problems between us, except for communication.
This minor misunderstanding ends here now. Hopefully not to be blown out of proportion. I need solutions! Where are you!
